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Wait a few minutes and then try again with these extra steps.

If the pain doesn’t go away after your partner pulls out, then stop what you’re doing. When you remove it, check and see if it comes out clean. It keeps things moving smoothly and can help prevent pain or discomfort. There’s no “right” way to bottom or correct amount of time this should take.

how to be a good gay bottom

Prioritise your comfort over speed. That being said, let’s get to the bottom of some common myths about preparing your bottom.

 

Myth #1: Poop sits in the rectum and the anus, which is where the top will be inserting his D.

Fact: Our bodies are designed so that stool stays in the sigmoid colon until you feel the urgency to go.

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In these cases, preparation and training – like with the dilation kit or cone from his sexual wellness brand Future Method – can help.

There can also be other causes. Fibre, anal training and techniques like douching can all play a part. This is the natural way of keeping everything clean for play. It sets off the same signals to your brain that you need to poop, but you probably don’t.

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This is where you clean out the inside of your ass with water using a special tool (a douche).

You don’t have to douche. Isotonic solutions are known to neither draw electrolytes from the body, nor draw water into the body. You may need to repeat this process a few times, but don't overdo it.

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  • Fibre-Rich Diet: Your diet plays a significant role in preparation.

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The Freddie Guide to: Bottoming

Bottoming is an art. This can cause the liquid to travel all the way up into the sigmoid colon, which is where poop is stored (and much further than any D can hit).

Ultimately, you are cleaning out way more than is necessary.